"Life can be seen as a graph
that begins and ends at zero. Between these two points there are many ups and
downs."
I promised to write about spirituality, and that is what I
am doing. You may however find my point of entry – loss – a bit strange. Loss
comes in many forms, and as I’ll explain, to live a maximum life, it is
essential to deal with loss well. I was recently asked by a friend how to get
over the loss of a loved one. My answer was that she probably didn’t really
want to. You see, the reason for her sadness at the loss was that she loved the
person, shared many good memories with that person and in order to get over the
loss, she would have to give up the good memories she had and make them
meaningless. So, it isn’t so much that we want to get over the loss as it is
that we want to cope with the feelings and operate “normally”. We don’t want to
be perpetual basket-cases subjected to the ridicule and whispers of others who
might say that we had “lost it”. We want to be included in normal life while
being allowed to remember and experience the loss.
